Self esteem problems are at an all time high. So many of us are walking around pretending that everything is perfect when in actual fact we are dying inside.
You have a secret that no-one knows. There’s a little voice in your head and it’s getting louder, telling you that you aren’t good enough, that you will fail and that you will never be good enough. On the outside everything looks perfect, you look perfect.
You put on a great act, confident, happy, look at me, I’ve got everything under control. But behind that smile you don’t feel great about yourself and you don’t know what to do about it.
People would be so shocked if they realised the extent of your own self loathing and lack of confidence.
You long for a life of meaning, for connection and to feel of worth in the world. But you don’t know how to even begin to make changes to your life, if you start to look too closely at yourself everything is going to fall apart.
If this sounds like you then I can help. The first step is to take a simple test to assess your self esteem levels
It has been widely researched that perfectionism and low self esteem are linked and that people with a low level of self esteem set unreasonably high expectations for themselves. It has also been widely researched that people who suffer from a low level of self esteem do not implement their own self care strategy as they do not feel that they are worth it.
The Rosenberg self-esteem scale (RSES) developed by sociologist Dr. Morris Rosenberg and is considered a reliable and valid quantitative tool for self-esteem assessment.
You will need a pen and paper to record your answers to calculate your final score. Choose the statement which best correspondences to how you feel when answering each question below -
- I feel that I am a person of worth, at least on an equal plane with others.
- I feel that I have a number of good qualities.
- All in all, I am inclined to feel that I am a failure.
- I am able to do things as well as most other people.
- I feel I do not have much to be proud of.
- I take a positive attitude toward myself.
- On the whole, I am satisfied with myself.
- I wish I could have more respect for myself.
- I certainly feel useless at times.
- At times I think I am no good at all.
Scores are calculated as follows:
For items 1, 2, 4, 6, and 7:
• Strongly agree = 3
• Agree = 2
• Disagree = 1
• Strongly disagree = 0
For items 3, 5, 8, 9, and 10:
• Strongly agree = 0
• Agree = 1
• Disagree = 2
• Strongly disagree = 3
The scale ranges from 0-30. Scores between 15 and 25 are within normal range; scores below 15 suggest low self-esteem.
Now you have an idea of your own level of self esteem. Depending on the outcome of your assessment, there are a number of practical things that you can start to do today that will have a positive impact on your self esteem.
- You can learn more in my journal where I write about self esteem, self care and addiction
- You can start to implement your own self care routine by downloading the Me Time Meditation included in the resources and use it to help you uncover what course of action to take
- You can book in for a yoga class
- You can book in for a 30 minute consultation with me and together we can create your plan of action