Sober Curious? 4 Tips to Help you Maintain your Sobriety this Christmas.
It's coming up to that time of year when anything goes because it's Christmas. At the height of my addiction I would go on a month long drinking binge, December was a blur of parties and alcohol, I loved the excuse that Christmas gave me to drink. I can't remember how many times I tricked myself into drinking another bottle of wine "because it's Christmas." I've been sober since 28th December 2016 and today I wanted to share with you how you too can maintain your sobriety even during the festive season.
- Give yourself permission to not drink alcohol. This was a big one for me, I used to lament, why aren't I like everyone else, why can't I just have one drink? Why aren't I normal? So I kept on trying to have just one drink. As soon as the alcohol entered my system I'd feel really shit, and then I'd begin to obsess about when I was having my next drink. I began to realise I couldn't focus on anything else that might've been happening around me because I was so consumed with the idea of wanting another drink. As soon as I realised I didn't have to try to be "normal and drink anymore" I let myself off the hook and I was free. No more trying to fit in I could just let alcohol go. It is so liberating.
- Remind yourself that this is the choice you have made for yourself. It doesn't bother me if everyone around me is drinking, that is their choice. I know that I don't want to drink. I know that I don't need to drink. I know that I'm happier without alcohol. Alcohol makes me into a self obsessed monster. To reinforce this thought in the beginning I would often write down why I had made the choice, and remind myself that I can always change my mind and have a drink if I want to. I never want to.
- Make sure you only socialise with people who you really want to spend time with. I used to spend a lot of time out with other alcoholics. I realised the only thing that we had in common was alcohol. Our nights were always the same, we'd get drunk, talk shit then stumble home and not remember any of the evening. Great. I don't miss those nights or those people one little bit. Now I choose my friends and the time I spend with them. If you don't want to go to the office party, don't go.
- If you do socialise make sure you know what you will order to drink before you go out. Perhaps a hot chocolate, or a non alcoholic fruit cocktail, I even take my own kombucha with me to house parties! I influence where we go to eat and choose places that have some non-alcoholic options such as ginger beer or fresh fruit cocktails. My choices enable others to do the same instead of feeling that they have to drink alcohol. However, I don't force my choices onto other people, if my friends or husband want to drink I respect their choice.
I hope this helps you to ditch the drink this Christmas. If you need any support with this I would be so happy to hear from you.